Thank You But Be You

Every birthday is a time to be thankful; thankful to God for life, family and the work. It’s a time to celebrate. And here’s why. Because the joy of the Lord is our strength. Continue reading “Thank You But Be You”


Who Is Preparing for this?

By 2020, there will be 20 million self-driving cars. And by 2030, Artificial Intelligence (AI) would have eclipsed nearly 2 billion jobs. Jobs as diverse as catering and article writing are set to be taken over by robots.

With the world population on a steady rise, one is poised to wonder what cataclysmic problems the impending surge of technologically-induced unemployment is set to reek. The steady lure of profits from globalization to technology for world commerce is going to have a sudden impact on people, like a sledgehammer on an ant, when the day comes, but not today.

Today, technology is advancing at mind-boggling speeds so that employers are now in need of employees with computer science skills.

According to LinkedIn, about 96 percent of jobs across the globe expected to be filled this year alone require some knowledge of computer science from cloud computing administrators to digital marketers.

This means that young people going into university to study courses like accounting, banking, journalism, agronomy and general surgery may be out of work before they even graduate.

The career guidance department of many schools have a task at hand. PTA’s really need to start giving attention to STEM ( Science, Technology, Engineering and Math) education from as early as kindergarten so that children learn to solve problems and adapt solutions to real lite situations using STEM.

In many parts of Africa, policy makers are yet to formulate policy for integrating STEM into in-country curricula which could spell doom if parents, teachers and the students themselves don’t take the initiative.

Management guru, Peter Drucker once said, ‘ the only way to prepare for the future is to create it.’ Don’t wait for the government, wherever you are.

Prepare yourself for the future.

How To Get Anything You Want

In Christ, you can have everything you have ever imagined; a beautiful family, happiness, health and wealth; and here is how:

By meditating on God’s Word about whatever it is that you want.

Trust me, the Word of God contains the anointing. And a quick definition of what the anointing is; is that it is a substance of God that destroys burdens and removes yokes (according to Isaiah 10:27) capable of delivering to you God’s intent in any situation, location or context. 

Sickness is a yoke, and so is debt, the inability to find a spouse or pay bills when they fall due. It is a burden to have to endure depression, business failure or failure in your marriage. Everyone knows this because of the pain that comes with such circumstances.

Now, the Lord Jesus Christ (the manifested Word of God) came for one purpose alone: that we who believe in Him should have His life and live it to the fullest (See John 10:10 and 1  John 3:8); and not be subject to pain of defeat.

That said, to meditate on God’s word in the Christian context means to ponder, mutter, devise, confess and shout it until your spirit is bubbling up with it in your prayer and general conduct. It is how you bring the anointing, that yoke destroying, burden removing substance into your affairs. 

So whatever you are faced with, get into the scriptures, make a list of what God’s anointed words say about it from the Bible and begin to meditate upon them.

In ending this piece, allow me to quote two scriptural references as the it is biblical rule that in the mouth of two or more witnesses, a matter is established (See 2 Corinthians 13:1 and Matthew 18:16)

  1. Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful (Joshua 1:8)
  2. Meditate upon these things; give thyself wholly to them; that thy profiting may appear to all. (1 Timothy 4:15)

Everything you have ever wanted, if meditated on for long enough, will be manifested to you. Don’t struggle like the rest of the world. You are different. 

Take time to study Matthew 6: 31-33. Meditating is the way to seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness.


What Problems Am I Solving?

Every day, I see people–great, loving, wonderful human beings-struggle financially; live from paycheck to paycheck; stay glued to cul de sac jobs where they work at for decades. Sometimes, these folks are just unable to find work  because the job market is tight. What’s true though is  that being Mr. Nice Guy doesn’t pay bills.

Money only comes to people who are -in one way or the other- solving problems. Every job on earth is designed to solve a problem or set of problems in exchange for money. 

I find that making money is often the primary or sole motivation for many people, but it never satisfies like if actually aligning yourself to fix a problem would. 

A person of faith, realizing how important motivations are, cannot be downplayed because with the right ones, anybody can become an enterprise that meets  a need, employs others and takes in profits by the millions.

So what are the motivations that can help you solve problems and change your earn ability forever?


Love can. The Bible is a book that teaches humans beings to love God, love themselves on the basis of their love for God and then, love their neighbour as they love themselves. It means that if I love my neighbour as I love myself, I am immediately a problem solver. Part of the being a human being is self-preservation. And this attribute, parlayed into the biblical teaching on love can help  you create products and services that people around you need to live better. In essence, all wealth is created by love for others, because loving is giving, solving problems and helping to preserve others, even at the prospect of getting paid.


Hope is expectation. And several times, all through the Bible, it teaches how having hope can be important. The Bible teaches us to expect profit from all labor. It teaches that the expectation of the righteous including, solving problems in exchange for profits, can not be cut off; the God’s plan for us is to give us an expected end of good. Hope means that success is guaranteed me no matter the business I choose to engage in.


Faith is taking action based on the hope of success. It is the confident assurance that you believe the guarantee of success that the Bible gives to believers. You start that food business or any other business with the expectation to succeed. Faith is the cherry on the top. It is actualizing the motivations of hope and love. 

As you re-fire and relaunch  out this final half of the year, it is important that you let love, hope and faith drive you to solve problems and create value for others. 

Let the drive to help others, not the quest for money underpin your business venturing. 

If you are finding it difficult to get a job, make one. Your destiny is in your grasp. It is my firm belief that God created you to solve a problem in this world so step up and be counted.

Maybe you can cook, clean, audit, plan or manage money well. Remember this: 

You are the answer to someone’s cry; the solution to someone’s problems.

What you need to do now is get a sheet of paper and write on the top of that page this question:

What problems am I solving? 

From that point, start attempting to answer this question with as many thoughts that come to mind by writing down the things you are good at. Reread the three Bible motivations for solving problems and let it drive you to start a business or reorganize the one you already have.

May the rest of the year turn out in your favour.

Three People Never To Keep Company With


As the year progresses, I am learning more about defining myself by my social orbit. Lenin once said:

Show me your friend and I will tell you who you are.

We are the sum of our five closest relationships which makes me a little edgy about keeping company with these three types of people in particular.

The Uninspired
Stay away from people who have no inspiration. The uninspired see no possibilities. They have no dreams or goals of their own and so they kill the dreams of others. They are the naysayers; the critics who always focus on how things would never work. The uninspired have a lethargy that is very contagious. Stay away from them.

The Unexcited
These are sad people. Like the uninspired, they too are lethargic but more than this, they are also envious. These people immobilize you out of envy. They are the ones who can’t get something done and would stand in the way of someone who can, out of jealously. Their pessimism is borne out of self-hatred. They literally see nothing good in themselves and so cannot see goodness in others. Be weary of people like this who often cast aspersions on and belittle themselves.

The Ungrateful
These ones are the most dangerous of the lot. They have no sense of worth and so cannot ascribe worth or value to anything or anyone. Ungrateful people are close-minded, short-sighted people incapable of assessing or recalling good things when they happen to or around them. These people are the backbiting and malicious kind often given to spreading lies about you. They are the haters; the badmouths who would rather hurt you than just shut their mouths up . Gossip is their stock in trademark so beware. If they tell you something negative about someone else, be rest assured they are talking to other people about you.

The funny thing about these three, is that they are the friendliest type of people you’d ever meet. So look out for the signs and stay clear of them

Have a great week!

For Married Men Alone



First, Respect.

Men, to gain the respect of your wives, you’ve got to give it first. Frankly, your wife’s point of view matters, otherwise you shouldn’t even be married.

If you are going to enjoy being -or at least, stay married-your critical success factor will be something I have coined, the Feeling Quotient.

The Feeling Quotient (FQ) is all-important to the kind of Wife Experience you give.  And by Wife Experience, I mean the kind of experience your wife has being married to you. If you make your wife feel good, your Wife Experience goes up, and your ability to keep her feeling good for sustained period means you have a high FQ. However, if you make her feel bad for a sustained period, your FQ is low and probably needs a little tweaking.

Things to Tweak to Increase Your FQ and Improve Your Wife Experience

Listen to Her
The first thing you do to improve your Wife Experience is listen to her more. And there is a trick to this. We listen how we talk. Men typically listen to agree or disagree with the issues being raised in a conversation. Women, they listen not necessarily to agree or disagree but as a show of presence or empathy which makes them better at grasping and recalling even the minor details of conversations.
Your job will be  listen to your wife more keenly as a show of presence than for the correctness of what she is saying. The secret passage to any woman’s heart is through your ears. Being listened to is typically the first reason why women have affairs. Emotional intimacy is about being present for your woman to pour out her soul and feel secure.
Provide your wife your ears and seriously she’ll literally bend over backwards to help improve your marriage experience in more ways than you could possibly imagine.

Hug Her More
You’ve got to hug your wife more. Hugging your wife more induces, Oxytocin, a hormone that strengthens bonds, solidarity and trust between lovers. Hugging has also been proven to reduce cortisol, another hormone responsible for stress and anxiety. Hug her without the motivation for sex. Do it because it makes her feel loved, secured and valuable.

In the famous words of Psychotherapist Virginia Satir:

“We need 4 hugs a day for survival. We need 8 hugs a day for maintenance. We need 12 hugs a day for growth.”

Spoil Her With Consistency
Yes. Spoil her silly. Spoiling your wife starts with your being perceptive of her needs and wants. Now, there are no generics with women, so you’ve got to find out what your wife likes and enjoys. Maybe you need to tell her thank you more often; give her a massage; buy her a new car; send her flowers with a love note to her workplace; or pay for that professional exam she’s been talking about. And maybe you need to send her to the spa, or on a shopping vacation to Dubai. Whatever she likes, you’ve got to anticipate it and spoil her with it consistently. Spoiling her consistently sends a message of your thoughtfulness and what awesome feelings this creates in her heart.
Seriously, you don’t have to break the bank to spoil her. Just be thoughtful enough to anticipate her need for a purse and buy it for her.

The Ultimate Wife Experience is a woman feeling loved, secure, valuable and indebted. One woman I met last week-who has been married for 17 years- said to me:

“I feel so loved by my husband that I have no other focus than to pursue his happiness.”

You can guess my thoughts, that woman was now indebted because her husband had made her feel loved, secure and valuable.

And so can you.



On Writing


writeWhile I do not claim to be an expert, I am convivial about writing; so much that it has  been one of my life’s love since I was 10 years old.

As with many of the ambitions of our young selves, I let it slip through the cracks of living, getting into college, graduating, finding a job, marrying a beautiful woman…before moving on to start a business that didn’t do so well and eventually leaving me disillusioned about my self-worth. Losing that business was like losing an arm in a forced armputation. If I didn’t let it go, it might have ended up killing me.

Then, writing came back  like an old friend that never really  left. She showed me my worth each time someone praised a script or letter I had written. The impressions it left on others made me reflect many times. What sense  she gave…that I could make a difference with my thoughts penciled on a piece of paper.

And then, I wrote a book which to my disappointment, didn’t sell as fast as I had anticipated. I learnt that writing a book wasn’t enough… and that promoting it was everything in the world we live in today.

In the process, I began giving away my books and -as if to say it was what was the final piece,  the next thing that happened wowed me. Sales picked up, speaking engagements piled and the publishing deal finally came.

Writing-faithful in everyway -had made me who I was in my heart. She had given me what I didn’t have. And in the end, she had brought very influential people into my life.

Maybe your gift isn’t writing like me-but playing soccer…or even sewing clothes. Maybe the deftness with which you communicate, make others laugh or draw is it for you. The point is: You have something! Be diligent with what you have and it will stand you out some day.

In my tribute to the craft and writers alike, I would say matter-of-factly: Writing (the art form) is a lot of writing (the work)

Have fun,