You Are a Person

Sometimes, all some people want is for you to be a role: husband, wife, father, boss, son or friend. And that’s all. They aren’t interested you, your likes or dislikes,and so on.

As far as you play your role like an actor following his or her lines, they are fine. They’ll reward you. After all, that’s why we have the Oscars.

But the problem is, because they don’t see you for who you really are, they lose a lot. And this is sad, both ways . It deprives you of the opportunity to be a blessing to them while depriving them of a similar opportunity to be blessed by you.

In many mentor-mentee relationships this is very common. Blinded by shortcomings, or the personal need to understand their own selves, some people leave when they should stay; run away when they should stick around; judge when they should pray. And all of that.

If you’ve been blighted by such a gaff in any of your relationships, it’s the tale of most of human existence; that all of us, somehow, want to be loved for who we are, and not for the roles we play; for being a person, not a colleague or a driver or a mother or a step son; that we get noticed for the haircut or the new dress or the freckles that are strewn on our faces; to know that we can connect with you in a visceral way when you ask, ‘How are you?’ It appears that when we know this, that you truly care, then we whip out the person that we are—good or bad.

And yet, when striking up a conversation with any person for the first time, we often clutch at platitudes for follow up questions like ‘What do you do?’ or ‘Where do you work?’and answers like, ‘Oh I am an accountant’ or ‘I am a house wife’ not mattering who asks… or who answers.

We quickly look past the person to what they do or rather, what they can do…for us; never really bothering what we can do for, with and through them.

It’s a shortsightedness that almost all of us have been socialized by; to look past a person to their the commercial, social or emotional benefit without thinking; to look past ourselves to what we do, more than who we are.

You are not what you do for me or her or anybody. You are a person–with an essence. And if you ever find someone who focuses on who you are–your worth– you should never let them go.

May your week be blessed with victories.

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Pray Through To Victory!


If you study 1 Kings 18:41-46 and I think you should. You would notice that Elijah prayed seven times before He was able to effect the change. 
Sometimes, God may speak a word to your heart or a prophecy may even be given, but until we tarry in prayer, to the point of receiving a note of victory, God’s mandate in heaven will not be a reality on the earth . In essence, prayer is labour. It is conversing with God in a manner that is heartfelt and persistent until what He has said comes to pass in the earth.
In the coming weeks, I see a lot of climate issues still to come; social upheavals and unprecedented catastrophe across the world. God reveals these things, not because they are inevitable, but because He wants us to pray. 

Our prayers must not cease . In Acts 16:25, Paul and Silas didn’t just pray and sing,  they prayed until they sang. And here’s the difference: their singing was their note of victory if you noticed what happened thereafter. 

1 John 5:14-15 tells us there can be no unanswered prayers when we pray according to God’s will. He wills that our prayers be heartfelt and unceasing until we take delivery of destiny.

When the creator said men ought always to pray and not to quit (in Luke 18:1), He who constituted mankind and became a man himself, was admonishing us about how to live successfully. The prayers should not cease until victory is physically apparent.
God has a verdict on your situation. You just have to find it in the Bible and pray through to victory.

How To Get Anything You Want


In Christ, you can have everything you have ever imagined; a beautiful family, happiness, health and wealth; and here is how:

By meditating on God’s Word about whatever it is that you want.

Trust me, the Word of God contains the anointing. And a quick definition of what the anointing is; is that it is a substance of God that destroys burdens and removes yokes (according to Isaiah 10:27) capable of delivering to you God’s intent in any situation, location or context. 

Sickness is a yoke, and so is debt, the inability to find a spouse or pay bills when they fall due. It is a burden to have to endure depression, business failure or failure in your marriage. Everyone knows this because of the pain that comes with such circumstances.

Now, the Lord Jesus Christ (the manifested Word of God) came for one purpose alone: that we who believe in Him should have His life and live it to the fullest (See John 10:10 and 1  John 3:8); and not be subject to pain of defeat.

That said, to meditate on God’s word in the Christian context means to ponder, mutter, devise, confess and shout it until your spirit is bubbling up with it in your prayer and general conduct. It is how you bring the anointing, that yoke destroying, burden removing substance into your affairs. 

So whatever you are faced with, get into the scriptures, make a list of what God’s anointed words say about it from the Bible and begin to meditate upon them.

In ending this piece, allow me to quote two scriptural references as the it is biblical rule that in the mouth of two or more witnesses, a matter is established (See 2 Corinthians 13:1 and Matthew 18:16)

  1. Keep this Book of the Law always on your lips; meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do everything written in it. Then you will be prosperous and successful (Joshua 1:8)
  2. Meditate upon these things; give thyself wholly to them; that thy profiting may appear to all. (1 Timothy 4:15)

Everything you have ever wanted, if meditated on for long enough, will be manifested to you. Don’t struggle like the rest of the world. You are different. 

Take time to study Matthew 6: 31-33. Meditating is the way to seek first the Kingdom of God and His righteousness.

Shalom!

The Race Called Christ 


Ignorance is a serious disadvantage if you are Christian. And the more disempowering part of being a member of the body of Christ is believing half-truths.

One of the half-truths that Christians have believed for so long is about God’s truth on race.

This post would attempt to dissect the mind of God through the scriptures to help you form your own ideas about how to view the subject.

In 1 Samuel 16:7, we find our first premise about how the Lord looks at men.


The background to this scripture was the Prophet Samuel is directed to the house of Jesse to anoint a new king for Israel-after Saul, the nation’s first king had been rejected for his disobedience to God. Beholding Eliab, the well-built firstborn son of Jesse, Samuel moved to anoint him king but was stopped by the Lord. And in doing so, God revealed something about His personality which is that physical appearance is never part of his consideration particularly in matters of selecting and anointing people. In a sense, the colour of your skin, handsome, pretty, ugly or physically-challenged have no bearing with God and His preferences.

Clearly, categorizing people based on skin colour–black, white, brown, red–is a human thing that has absolutely nothing to do with how God classifies people.

So How Does God Classify People?

From scripture, we find three classifications of people, consistent with how God looks at men–from the heart.

Ephesians 2:14 in the Bible reveals three classes of people:

  • The Jews
  • The Gentiles and
  • The Church

We find that God recognizes these people from a purely state-of-heart perspective.

The Jews are the physical seed of Abraham issued an irrevocable promissory by the true God with terms that required them to live up to but they haven’t.

The Gentiles are non-Jews with no covenant relationship with the true God. They are described in the Bible as strangers from the covenant of promise; alienated from the deal that the true God gave the Jews.

The Church is the new race. They are an offshoot of the amnesty granted the Jews and the Gentiles by the true God based on the sacrifice of Jesus Christ. How was this amnesty granted through Jesus, you might be asked.

Jesus hung on a tree for the Jews. It was the penalty for not fulfilling their part of the contract with God.

At the same time, Jesus suffered alienation from God for the Gentiles. It was why He cried in Hebrew on that cross, ‘Eli Eli lama sabach tani’ (Matthew 26:47)

Jesus satisfied the demands of Justice for both Jews and non-Jews on that cross making peace with God; the peace that was lost by Adam in the Garden of Eden at the beginning.

And so it is only by accepting the death, burial and resurrection of Jesus Christ that man could now find peace with God.

Act 4:12 says,


Sin was the wall of hostility that Jesus broke down to create the new man in Christ. And if sin was the wall,  fleshly prejudices like racism, religious fundamentalism and greed were the cement holding the bricks of the wall together.

It is man’s fallen nature that entices him to look and judge based on externalities. But not the Church. The Christian looks at human beings just as God does because he has the ability to do so from within.

Many, for ages, have misconstrued Christianity for what it truly is from the time of the early church. But the Bible is clear:

1 Peter 2:9 describes Christianity for what it truly is; a race, and not merely a system of belief.

If you are born again, you are a bonafide member of this chosen race; a race called Christ.

Shalom!

The Measure of Intelligence, Redeeming Nigeria from Moral Precipice and the place of Public Policy

Intelligence is often measured by way of standardized IQ tests which in a sense, is parochial. I bring up this argument in my recently published book, The Code: A Simple Story about Raising Great Women. And while I broach the subject of how we measure intelligence from a broader perspective; as a means truly understanding the strengths of our girl-children in order to harness it, my underlying premise aligns with the popular quote, often attributed to Albert Einstein which says:

‘Everyone is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid.’

How true! In my book, I devote a chapter to the eight original intelligences as described by Harvard professor, Howard Gardener in his book, Frames of Mind, adapting them to parenting; how moms and dads share the responsibility of understanding which of the eight their children have high quotients in, as means of helping these kids develop until they reach some sort of genius.

The eight intelligences, more popularly referred to as the Theory of Multiple Intelligence include;
· Linguistic intelligence (word smartness)

· Logical-mathematical intelligence (number/reasoning smartness)

· Spatial intelligence (picture smartness)

· Bodily-Kinaesthetic intelligence (body smartness)

· Musical intelligence (music smartness)

· Interpersonal intelligence (people smartness)

· Intrapersonal intelligence (self-smartness)

· Naturalist intelligence (nature smartness)

If you look very closely at the quick definitions I put in parenthesis beside the eight intelligences, you may agree with me as to the veracity of my argument. Simply put, people are smart differently and standardizing the measure of intelligence in for of IQ tests is nothing short of an anomaly. We just aren’t smart the same way. Some people are word smart and others are music smart. Even music maestro, Fela Anikulapo-Kuti alluded in part to this phenomenon when he said;

‘Book sense different from belle sense’

That said, I have been studying a rare form of intelligence, called Moral Intelligence; a smartness of right from wrong. And while this article makes no judgement as to political views or religious leanings, a recent piece of legislation regarding granting amnesty to economic saboteurs in Nigeria perturbed me into writing this piece and raises the question as to whether there are morally intelligent people in the country’s political leadership.

As with all intelligences, I hypothesize that moral intelligence is both inborn and can be honed. And that in creating a society that is morally intelligent, the government, by way of its education and national orientation policies can emphasize moral instruction as a means of improving the overall moral intelligence average of the country.
Without doubt, some people are morally smarter, without the input of any religious or moral instruction while others aren’t. We have all come across the truthful hedonist or the degenerate religious leader who fails to practice what he preaches. The multi-dimenionslism of human beings speak to one thing: People can in character lead double live based on their moral smartness. And so policy makers, in public and private sectors, have the onus of looking for ways of measuring and funneling  the moral intelligent  into leadership…by way of robust human capital development policy.

Effort is King


No matter how smart or talented you are, effort is king. You may not be gifted or talented and yet, you may become super successful, particularly if you make up your mind that no one would outwork you in your chosen vocation. 

Frankly,  most people would discard talent because it is no indicator of success. There are far more talented failures in the world than people willing to put in the time and effort that bring results. 

In my line of work, people are quick to praise results over effort forgetting that there could be no results without it.

Then, there’s religious confusion about effort and its value. In Christianity, there’s the ‘faith vs works’ debate which has let many people accuse Christians of being sloppy with their work–which in part, I can familiarize with. But this ought not to be. Part of being the light of world entails having an extraordinary work ethic. 

In his letter to the Corinthian church in the Bible Paul mentioned* how his extraordinary work ethic was a product of grace–labouring more than his contemporaries–and not the opposite. 

But today, certain people lazy around with the idea that God’s grace is some kind of gift that requires they do little to achieve a lot. Nothing could be more a departure from the truth as this.

Certain, effort, clarity and perseverance are parallel truths on the pathway to success but of the three, effort is king.

*1 Corinthians 15:10

What Problems Am I Solving?


Every day, I see people–great, loving, wonderful human beings-struggle financially; live from paycheck to paycheck; stay glued to cul de sac jobs where they work at for decades. Sometimes, these folks are just unable to find work  because the job market is tight. What’s true though is  that being Mr. Nice Guy doesn’t pay bills.

Money only comes to people who are -in one way or the other- solving problems. Every job on earth is designed to solve a problem or set of problems in exchange for money. 

I find that making money is often the primary or sole motivation for many people, but it never satisfies like if actually aligning yourself to fix a problem would. 

A person of faith, realizing how important motivations are, cannot be downplayed because with the right ones, anybody can become an enterprise that meets  a need, employs others and takes in profits by the millions.

So what are the motivations that can help you solve problems and change your earn ability forever?

Love


Love can. The Bible is a book that teaches humans beings to love God, love themselves on the basis of their love for God and then, love their neighbour as they love themselves. It means that if I love my neighbour as I love myself, I am immediately a problem solver. Part of the being a human being is self-preservation. And this attribute, parlayed into the biblical teaching on love can help  you create products and services that people around you need to live better. In essence, all wealth is created by love for others, because loving is giving, solving problems and helping to preserve others, even at the prospect of getting paid.

Hope


Hope is expectation. And several times, all through the Bible, it teaches how having hope can be important. The Bible teaches us to expect profit from all labor. It teaches that the expectation of the righteous including, solving problems in exchange for profits, can not be cut off; the God’s plan for us is to give us an expected end of good. Hope means that success is guaranteed me no matter the business I choose to engage in.

Faith


Faith is taking action based on the hope of success. It is the confident assurance that you believe the guarantee of success that the Bible gives to believers. You start that food business or any other business with the expectation to succeed. Faith is the cherry on the top. It is actualizing the motivations of hope and love. 

As you re-fire and relaunch  out this final half of the year, it is important that you let love, hope and faith drive you to solve problems and create value for others. 

Let the drive to help others, not the quest for money underpin your business venturing. 

If you are finding it difficult to get a job, make one. Your destiny is in your grasp. It is my firm belief that God created you to solve a problem in this world so step up and be counted.

Maybe you can cook, clean, audit, plan or manage money well. Remember this: 

You are the answer to someone’s cry; the solution to someone’s problems.

What you need to do now is get a sheet of paper and write on the top of that page this question:

What problems am I solving? 

From that point, start attempting to answer this question with as many thoughts that come to mind by writing down the things you are good at. Reread the three Bible motivations for solving problems and let it drive you to start a business or reorganize the one you already have.

May the rest of the year turn out in your favour.