Low Birthrate, Robotization and the Case for Test Tube Babies

Malthusians have been correct for quite a while now. Low birthrate trends in the developed world have shown no sign of abating, going by statistics.

While countries like Canada have turned to immigration to solve potential demographic problems of an ageing workforce and weak taxation, Japan is turning to robotics because of its desire to remain a homogenous society.  But other homogenous first world countries seem to be caught in a dilemma with many playing the proverbial ostrich; holding out on diversity and economic growth.

Finland for example, like most of its neighbours, has been experiencing lower birthrates on a consistent basis.  It response: state incentives for mothers; the kind that would almost certainly make it a lucrative business to have children in other climes, but no. 

2016 birthrate figures show that Finland recorded its lowest number of babies born in 150 years. Statistics Finland, the country’s team of statisticians, projected birthrate figures for last year to be a worrisome 1.57.

Be that as it may, this kind of problems could eventually lead to the rise of gestational surrogacy as a solution…with a new kind of migrant worker–the surrogate mother from the third world.

Gestational surrogacy is an arrangement in which a woman just carries and delivers a baby for another person or couple. She has no biological relationship with the baby because the sperm and egg are cultured in a test tube via the process of in vitro fertilization (IVF) and placed in her womb to carry it to term. The woman who carries the baby is the gestational surrogate, or gestational carrier.

Governments like Finland’s, concerned about keeping their populations homogenious while improving the number of future taxer payers may jolly well consider incentivizing healthy surrogate mothers from abroad to come and help create its own Finnish baby boom. 

But that’s only the beginning. Artificially boosting the number of babies born could pose new problems like higher foster care costs and even, human right violations. This is why government cannot approach the problem of low birthrate without carefully making laws and planting a pro-family message in its citizenry by way of national orientation to help encourage adoption and healthy families.

Robotization may be Japan’s way of dealing with its ambitions to sustain a homogenous society and sustain economic growth. But the rise of ‘test tubers’ could answers the demographic questions that face the most of developed world in the years to come.


The Issue of Body Image



Recently, I got some really incredible feedback about my book, The Code: A Simple Story About Raising Great Women that made me reflect about of the subject of body-image as it impacts on how successful a women become in life.

A working mom-in the oil and gas industry-told me that reading the book had helped her become sensitive to the struggle her chubby teenage daughter was beginning to experience because of her weight;so much so that the girl had now been prodding her parents to change schools because of the way she felt about her body.

As a parent, your role is to give your daughter control of her body-image. And while the roles diverge for mother and father on helping a daughter feel good about her looks, the real idea behind giving the girl-child control over her body-image is based on the fact that how she feels about her body and her ability to take charge of her life travel in the same direction. If your daughter feels good about her looks, her self-confidence skyrockets and this is a good thing, no matter what stage of life she’s at.

The thing to note here is that a daughter will take on the body-image of her mom without her mother having to say a word. So, if a mother struggles with her body-image, the daughter would most likely do too. My book asks mothers to learn to take control of their daughter’s body-image by taking control of their own through dieting and exercise.

And while mothers have the sole task of  mirroring positive body-images to their daughters, fathers have the role to affirming mother and daughter about their body-image. The reason, females are wired to think that if you aren’t saying nice things about them, then there is really nothing positive to say which is why the men in their lives need to be intentional about the words they use, particularly as it affects body-image.

I teach nine other ideas in this book to help you raise your daughter which you can get here on Amazon.





Depression: Let’s Talk

Many people approach the subject of depression from areas -I think-they find safe. Some people look at depression from the standpoint of religion. They think that depressed people are people without any faith-based hope and then pontificate about spiritiality in a way that defeats helping sufferers.
Others, particularly in third world countries, look at it from economics; their cause of depression being impoverishment of all sorts; and how people’s economic inabilities provide a very succinct environment for depression. And yet these people-in my estimation- misconstrue suffering with depression and end up describing something else.

Then, there are the nerdy ones who look at depression purely from the view point of medical science. In their definition, depression is a mood disorder; a mental sickness characterized by prolonged spells of sadness and disinterest; often  managable with a class of drugs called antidepressants. For these ones, depression has little connection with a man’s spirit or his body. It is a mind sickness and that’s it. And in their own words, they’d say, ‘Get tested’ or ‘Get help.’

But depression is more than a condition of prolonged sadness. It is the offshoot of a misalignment between the spirit, mind and body. You see, even though science fails to acknowledge the Spirit that man is because it fails explain what animates a man’s body, something certainly separate a living man from a corpse that died a moment ago. So settle this, you are a spirit, living in a body and you have a mind. But for the purpose of this post, allow me to describe each of these as a component of a whole, even though it doesn’t truly do justice to man’s composition.

In any case, your Spirit, Mind and Body need nurturing by way of inspiration, mental stimulation, food and exercise to required proportions that differ from person to person.  You (spirit) need to be inspired by words, pictures and acts every day; the same way your mind needs to be stimulated with things that keep you positive and hopeful; the same way your body needs food and exercise. 

As a person of faith, while I understand that clinical methods for dealing with depression have proven effective in some cases because of how these remedies deal with mind-based depression, they have failed woefully when the source of the depression arose out a deficiency in the spirit or the body. It is how medical science came up with the term, ‘incurable depression’ which some are now using as a case to support doctor-assisted suicide for patients diagnosed with it.
My point is, once there is a misalignment resulting from a prolonged neglect to feed any one of these three-Spirit, mind and body-with the appropriate stuff, depression happens.

But…let’s talk.

For Moms Only: My Last Book Giveaway


Hi there,

My book, The Code: A Simple Story About Raising Great Women will be free for the last time  on Amazon Kindle today . Click here to get a copy.

If you know a mom, stay-at-home or working, who has a daughter,  simply reblog this  post or tell them.

Thanks a lot and have a great week

I have put an excerpt for you below:

“Actually, Kay, in the short time we have this morning, that’s where I want to begin. You and I are coming from completely opposite directions as regards mothering. If we’re going to take this walk together, we need agree on a few things. Parenting girls isn’t a solo effort, it’s a community one. It’s a potpourri of several things, none ready- made and none foolproof. That’s why finding balance is the essence of mothering. It has absolutely no bearing with quitting work. In fact, the success of your mothering will depend on keeping your job. You obviously enjoy what you do at the bank because it affords you some money and a sense of worth… and nothing builds the self-esteem of girls as the one their mum mirrors at them. Am I correct? ”

Kay wasn’t sure if she was or wasn’t, but she cleared her throat and said, “Yes…I think you are.”

Hypatia smiled. “Please don’t get me wrong. There is nothing wrong with being a stay-at-home mum. I think women who stay at home for their children are incredible, but should be happy doing so. It’s not a good thing for children to be mothered by a woman who is constantly feeling, frustrated, depressed and empty. So if working makes you feel fulfilled, by all means work, and mother your girls. And if staying at home fulfils you, by all means, stay at home. There are no wrong or right answers when it comes to being a working or stay-at-home mum. It all boils down to making the choice that brings you closest to fulfilling your hopes and aspirations as a person.”

Kay nodded.

“…All right. I’m going to share my Cryptic Code of Mothering for Working Women with you now.”

Hypatia bent forward slightly and softly spoke three words.

“Build their self-confidence.”

#Buy The Code: A Simple Story about Raising Great Women

If you are a mom with daughters, seeking how to really leave an impact on them, I think your search can end here


The Code tells the story of an ambitious young lady named Kay who yearns to successfully balance the demands of her job with raising three beautiful daughters. Kay is a real self-starter, though sometimes it feels like as if the success she enjoys at work isn’t commensurate with her being a wife and a mother. And so one day, desperate to assuage her feelings of inadequacy, she seeks advice of the stratospheric Hypatia, a mother of six successful women and legendary life coach referred to by many of her mentees simply as the Chaperon.
Over the next two weeks, Hypatia introduces Kay to a series of outstandingly successful people, most of whom she had helped crack the code of winning at home and work.
Hypatia’s friends share with Kay the Ten Principles of Mothering Great Women and teach her what to do to become great herself.
Kay learns that changing her focus from quantity to quality—the time she spends with her girls—ultimately guarantees mothering success.
Filled with wit and candour, The Code is a heart-warming story about why mothers must take the centre-stage in the upbringing of their daughters.

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Why Women Cheat

Wedding rings on a dictionary showing the word infidelity

Betrayal is a riddle we want to solve- Sascha Arango



It has always bothered me why women cheat when they do.

The typical trappings that men cheat for physical reasons while women do so based on emotional grounds no longer really hold any water. In reality, women also cheat for physical reasons as do men at the whims of their emotions.

Over the past few years, we have seen a steady rise in women taking white collar positions in our society and while this is terrific, a larger part of why more women are cheating have been tied to this one development more than any other factor.

According to statistics, women are 40 per cent more likely to cheat than they were 20 years ago for the following reasons:


These days women are in the work place more; travelling more and are more financially empowered. According to the extra-marital affairs website, Ashley Madison, a spiking 16 per cent of its 27 million strong subscribers are women and the reason they attribute to this demography is in areas like Australia where men and women have income parity meaning more women are willing to jeopardize marriages where they aren’t happy because they can afford to.

Another site, Business Insider found that women who earned $75,000 and over were 150 per cent more likely to cheat than women who earned less if the opportunity presented itself.


Women in the workplace tend to have higher testosterone levels because of the high stress demands of work. In women, testosterone is responsible for arousal and clitoral engorgement. So working women may more easily become arousal by that ‘caring’ co-worker they are attracted to in the workplace and if unchecked, may more likely take the plunge into adultery, particularly if they are unhappy at home.


Unhappiness in a marriage arising out of non-validation from their spouses can make women cheat. Women are crafted from validation. Husbands, they want to be the centre of your world. Tell her how beautiful she is as many times and in as many different ways as practicable—even if it makes no sense to you. Tell her how important and secure you feel with her. Blow her mind with your attention. Women want to be wanted.  And never forget it: an unhappy woman is a ticking time bomb so retrace your steps if you have to.


A large number of promiscuous women were traumatized at some point in their lives. And this one explains a lot. What the effect of trauma does, is numb sexual restraint in people who might have been raped or sexually abused, causing hyper-sexuality in some; and the diametric opposite in others. In the case of hyper-sexuality, there is the urge to relive trauma which may cause some women to engage in reckless sex to feel alive. But whatever the case is, consulting with a psychotherapist is the way out of this.

Cheating is something that is a serious problem in our society today, and has ended many marriages. A lot of people do it but the crux for me is learning to forgive and not throwing away a whole family.

Infidelity is injurious, borne out of poor decision-making, but the secret to beating its debilitating effects on family, is working with your spouse to a place of healing and forgiveness so that in the end, like other challenges be it financial or spiritual, people come out on top with sounder families.