“Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers. And grieve not the holy Spirit of God, whereby ye are sealed unto the day of redemption. Let all bitterness, and wrath, and anger and clamour, and evil speaking, be put away from you, with all malice. And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” –(Ephesians 4: 29-32)
Think back to the last time you lost your temper. I mean, you really got angry, your emotions took over, and you went into a feat of rage. And just ponder on how much you’ve grown emotionally.
It could have been with your spouse, co-worker, toddler or the old lady across the street from where you live. The point is: you got angry and said a few things or behaved in manner that didn’t line up with Ephesians 4:29-32.
Jesus too got angry once and threw some folks out of the temple. * But the Bible records that he never sinned (Heb 4:15). All the same, we shall deal with anger in a future article.
Today we are dwelling on the subject of Christian kindness and how the Lord wants you to mete out kindness in your relationship with others.
Ephesians 4: 32 says, “…be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.” The key word ‘even as’ gauges the extent of kindness we should show our spouses, coworkers, department members and the generality of people around us. It’s a boundless kind of kindness premised of the love of God that has been shed abroad in our hearts (Roman 5:5).
You have capacity to give this kind of kindness because it is in you. Otherwise the Lord would not demand it. Remember that to whom much is given, much is expected. The ability to be God-kind—or kind like God is—came with the gift of the Holy Spirit. So, when we conduct ourselves outside the quadrangles of this kind of God-kindness, we say hurtful things, we wound the Holy Spirit and we sow bitterness in the hearts people around us.
Today would be a good day to stop trying to be kind because you were born again that way. You say to yourself, “I am kind with the kindness of God. I draw from the love of God in my heart. I am tenderhearted forgiving easily every occasion of hurt, displeasure and animosity.”
Marriages would be blissful. Homes will be salvaged. And many would be miraculously healed and delivered when we start to radiate this kind of kindness. We would reflect our Master more. And many would take notice the we are a chosen generation, a holy nation, a royal priesthood, and peculiar people called out of the darkness of division, divorce, malice, despair and defeat to show God’s marvelous light.
Patrick N. Igbinijesu